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Enabling Children to Care
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16823 |
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LIFE
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9 / 1989 |
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Julius Segal
Julius Segal, a psychologist, author, and lecturer, is a
contributing editor at Parents magazine. His latest book is
Winning Life's Toughest Battles: Roots of Human Resilience
(Ballantine). |
Thirteen-month-old Mark is eagerly devouring his supper when his weary father returns from work and slumps on a chair beside him. Mark quickly shifts his attention from his supper to his tired daddy and begins trying to feed him his remaining food.
Two-year-old David accidentally hits a playmate on the head. He looks stricken and immediately kisses and consoles her. "I hurt your hair," he says. "Please don't cry."
Anne, just twenty-one months old, notices that her mother is distraught and tearful after a squabble with her husband. She climbs onto her mother's lap and begins to offer comfort--nuzzling her, patting her shoulder, kissing her forehead, and saying "hi" repeatedly until she gets a "hi" and a smile in return.
Those three episodes are among many similar ones reported by psychologists Marian Radke-Yarrow and Carolyn Zahn-Waxler, who have devoted over a decade to the study of children's altruistic behavior--that is, behavior intended to help someone in need. From their research at the National Institute of Mental Health in Bethesda, Maryland, they have shown that Mark, David, and Anne are neither angels descended to earth nor aberrations of human nature. Even young babies display surprisingly generous instincts, routinely performing acts of genuine compassion. Contrary to both popular and professional wisdom, our young begin life not as totally selfish little creatures, but with an amazingly well-developed sense of caring and a readiness to extend themselves to help others in need.
Not that children are without a darker side, of
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