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Children of Divorce: Must It Hurt So?
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17261 |
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LIFE
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2 / 1990 |
2,248 Words |
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Connie Marshner
Connie Marshner is the author of Decent Exposure: How to Teach
Your Children about Sex, published by Wolgenuth and Hyatt. |
Kedric was sixteen when his parents divorced, and he seemed to weather the storm smoothly. He expected to follow his father's footsteps as a 747 pilot, so he majored in aeronautical engineering, earning nearly a 4.0 grade average. His Air Force ROTC instructors gave him the highest recommendations possible. Then he headed for basic fight school. Everything seemed in order.
Spencer, whose parents divorced when he was only twelve, has also, apparently, fared well. He has high grades, was accepted into a good college, and has plans for graduate school.
Kedric and Spencer are what our society defines as successful young people: They are high achievers, with every opportunity before them. It would seem that the fact that their families broke apart is almost incidental to their life stories. They have not followed the path of many children of divorce: They have avoided promiscuity, drug and alcohol abuse, disruptive school behavior, academic problems, and petty crime. But their stories don't end here.
Kedric had one more hurdle before embarking on a career in the Air Force: an interview with the squadron commander. When asked why he wanted to be in the Air Force, Kedric said seriously, "Because there is no better way to get away from people and probably no cleaner way to die." The startled officer asked him some more questions and received more deliberately outrageous answers. Kedric was finally expressing his anger at the betrayals and infidelities of his father, and his suppressed anger had gotten the better of him. As result, Kedric was asked to leave flight
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